Guys! We're engaged (and have been for a minute..).
First, I apologize for my consistent absence from the blog.. We've been working like crazy, and I finally got a minute to stop in and say "What's up!" So, we're engaged, if you didn't know! Yes! Lauryn and I are finally going to get it done after 4 years of dating. It's been a long time coming, but we're finally going to make it happen.
"OMG, you guys are going to have a big wedding, right?"
Actually, not as likely. Let me talk through some things; bear with me:
So, I proposed on December 12th, 2018. 12-12-18 was a good number, easy to remember, and frankly, the only day I could have done it in December. So! I did it. Every year, Lauryn and I go through Christmas lights at several St. Louis staples: The St. Louis Zoo, the Anheuser Busch Brewery, and (this year), Missouri Botanical Garden. They're all magical experiences, and it's a special tradition for us.
Anyway, I had it all planned out. All of the lights opened at 5:30, and there is a very, very distinct window of roughly 15 minutes where there is still a tad bit of sunlight left from over the horizon. Well, not really sunlight, but maybe a glow. I had a friend of mine there to photograph for us, and set it up. He would be there at 5:15 to be the first one in and get setup, I had the ring in the pocket of my coat, and there was a particular spot that is special to us. It is a tunnel of lights, and every year, we take selfies in that spot, so the plan was to stop and take a selfie, no one would be around, I would take a picture, and then propose, right? WRONG!
There was absolutely nobody there when we got to the tunnel. My heart started racing, and I panicked. We get into place, and start to take our picture. At this point, Josiah, my photographer was in the background of the photo, and Lauryn was getting annoyed because this guy was in our photo. The selfie is actually comical with the story, I'll have to see if I can find it. Now, he gets out of the picture, and a group of 6 or so passes through. I KEEP TAKING SELFIES, saying I was "trying to find the right lighting". Finally, there is a spot where no one is, and a group of 20 or so is about to enter the tunnel and I just pull the trigger. As I get down on my knee and pull the ring box out of my pocket: the entire group about to enter the tunnel, I HEAR their shoes stop walking and hold their breath. Also, I am a professional orator right? I make speeches in front of crowds of 200-1,000 all the time, so making a small speech to my darling of 4 years wouldn't be an issue, right? So, I had this speech memorized:
"Lauryn, we've been together for 1,509 days. You've made me happier than I've ever been. Will you make me the happiest man alive and marry me?"
Now, here some form of what came out:
"So, we've been together for a long time **long pause**, will you marry me?"
Not exactly going to win any awards, am I?
So, to wrap that up, she said yes, and I couldn't have been happier. As we walk around the Zoo and MoBo, we are just so elated, and we start dreaming of the big wedding that everyone, including ourselves thinks we'll have.
A week or so later, rubber hits the road. We start calling places and looking at venues.
St. Louis wedding venues, listen up. ANSWER THE PHONE.
Y'all. I think we called probably 20 places, and maybe 4 answered or returned our calls. As a matter of fact, I messaged a particular one on Facebook (12/20/18), and they returned my message TODAY. (3/4/18). WTF!
Then, other vendors, and checking to see what dates were available. The same exact issue! Why won't anyone answer their phones? We can't be the only ones with this issue!
So then, we decided to cool our jets for a month or so and wait until after the New Year.
Anyway, I'll save the rest of the details and just jump to our conclusion:
We decided not to have a massive reception for a few reasons:
As wedding vendors, our availability for wedding dates suck. In 2018, we DJ'ed 74 weddings, and are projecting 120 in 2019. We don't want to wait for 2020, so we will pick one closer to the date.
Really, we're both very outgoing at our events, but as I've written elsewhere, we're all actors. We are incredible entertainers because of our ability to turn the personality on and off. Some events don't react well to a bombastic personality, whereas others may do better with someone who is outgoing and crazy. Personally for us though, we are horrible friends. Our weekends are all taken up, we are perfectly fine to go to dinner or do something quiet, but big crowds stress us out when we aren't in charge of it. It's backwards, but 🤷🏻♂️. So for us, we would rather have a quaint wedding and dinner reception with close friends and family than the big party with everyone.
3. It's Work For Us.
Straight up, the biggest reason why we don't particularly want a big reception. It's work for us. We've been doing weddings as our business for years at this point, so the *magic* is kinda dull for us. As a new bride and groom where everything is fresh, anything that happens is perfect and magical. For us, everything at a wedding happens from a process, and we know the process. It's like anything, really. If you want to like it, you don't want to see behind the curtains. It's exactly the same thing. I used to enjoy Jack in the Box.. Then I worked there as a first job. 🤢
So, really that's it! We've always said that people need to have the wedding THEY want. If you don't want a big wedding, don't have one! It is a special day between you and the love of your life, and it should be YOURS. We absolutely LOVE weddings and receptions, and we have an incredible job to be able to experience the magic through other peoples' weddings. But for our would-be wedding, it would be just kinda dull for us personally. Does that make sense?
Because we know how it works, our joy in the wedding process is watching our friends have the wedding of their dreams and helping them attain that. That is what we enjoy!
Now... I have absolutely no idea what will happen in the next year or so. We may decide to do the big thing. I would put my money on not, but life throws you some curveballs, and by "life", I mean fiancés.
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