Brides, mothers, bridesmaids, maids and matrons of honor, stop—all of you. Yes, you. Stop. Stop the stress, stop the hurry, stop the rush, stop the panic.
As an industry professional—and one that works closely in several facets of the wedding industry—, I see it all the time. I see the bride, groom, and their families working tirelessly months (or even years) before the wedding to make sure everything is meticulously planned and that every form has every color and every song filled out. I see the bride stressing over the smallest details of the event that won't take place for another several months. As a wedding entertainer with planning forms of my own, I do appreciate the concern; don't get me wrong. However, as your friend, I need you to know this truth:
The stress you are causing yourself is unnecessary and extraneous. Your wedding should be among the happiest days of your life. We can't stand to watch you do this to yourself.
So, let go of it. Let go of the minor details that make you stress, sweat, scream, and cry. I understand that there is a level of stress that comes with planning any event, but stop stressing over the shades of blue, the songs, the guests. Sure, search Pinterest, fill your boards, follow Buzzfeed Weddings, go to your boutique or Hobby Lobby and design your centerpieces, do all of that! Do things that are fun because this should be fun! However, until a year out, everything but the date should be a thought and a baseline. I'm not at all saying you shouldn't book a venue, DJ, photographer, etc., but I am saying that you can do all that and then relax for a minute. Here's why:
For the same reasons you wouldn't hire a lawyer so you can handle the case yourself, hire a realtor so you can find your own house, or hire a mechanic so you can change your own oil, you hired a DJ, photographer, venue, or caterer so they can handle the details. The people who chose these as a profession did it because they have a passion for it. I chose to be a DJ because making people happy and assisting them in having a great night is a passion of mine. Very few people do these jobs because the money is good. The majority of us have a blast at it and do it every day. We live and breathe this stuff, so it'll be much easier for us to handle an aspect of your wedding than for someone who has never done it before. Of course, if you enjoy aspects of it, then let your pros know! We would absolutely love to incorporate you into aspects of the parts you enjoy.
Here is the bottom line:
Myself and my friends in various other sects of the wedding industry see it all the time—and it hurts us to watch you do this to yourself. Brides will stress out the months and weeks before the wedding over small details, stress out the day of the wedding, and then when 11PM comes and it is time for her to leave, she realizes that none of the stress mattered. She realizes how much fun she had, she remembers the tears of joy, the vows, the love of her life standing in front of her. Let us handle the pre-wedding stress. Let us handle the details, this should be the most blissful time of you life, so let it be.
What Our Clients Are Saying
"We seriously could not have had a better time for our wedding. As I was stressed out about the music, they made sure I, as the bride, felt calm. Everyone had the best time dancing and singing! Thank you all so much for making mine and C.J.'s wedding night memorable" - S.J.